Wednesday, May 29, 2013

Attack Your Weaknesses

by Darren Hardy,  Publisher, Successs Magazine

We hear a lot about finding and strengthening your strengths.
Sure, you should figure out what you are really good at, as it is also usually the thing you like doing as well, and then yes, strengthen it to give you further leverage on that strength.
That’s a good idea. But…

Do not neglect, you must also find
 and strengthen your weaknesses—those attributes or skills that you are not good in, but are critical for you to accomplish your important goals and aspirations.

You must also ATTACK your weaknesses!

I remember a time, many years ago, while working out at a Gold’s Gym in South Beach Miami, I complimented this bodybuilder guy on his calves. I know, weird, but you should have seen them! My calves were something I struggled with. I had all the typical calve exercises in my own routine but they never seemed to grow like my other muscle groups. I just figured they were like your jaw muscles, no matter how much you work them out they aren’t really going to change much—you either have great calve muscles or you don’t.

So I asked this guy what he did to have calves like that. He explained he had lost many body-building competitions in the past because his calves were his weak spot. All the work he had put into developing the rest of his body was eliminated because of this one glaring weakness.

He said, “Then I decided I would just attack them. I wouldn’t work them out like the rest of my body, I would double, triple or quadruple the focus, intensity and emphasis I put on them in my weekly training cycle.”

He proceeded by saying, “And guess what? My weakness has now become one of my greatest strengths. But even if it was just no longer a weakness and only matched the rest of my growth it would have been a great victory. However, in order to accomplish that it required me to multiply my intensity in that one area just to bring it up to even.”

I learned a very valuable lesson that day in the gym. Not just about building my calves but about building my life.

If I have a weakness, one that is essential to the achievement of my goals, I can’t just work on it, I have to ATTACK IT.

If it’s truly a weakness, then it needs MORE attention than other aspects of your development that comes easier or faster.

About the author:

Darren Hardy is the visionary force behind SUCCESS magazine as its Publisher and Founding Editor.
As the central leader in the personal development industry, Darren gets the unique privilege of sitting down with the leading experts on human performance and achievement, as well as many of today’s top CEOs, revolutionary entrepreneurs, superstar athletes, entertainers and Olympic champions, to learn their unique secrets to their extraordinary success.

Darren is also an accomplished entrepreneur, author, keynote speaker, private equity investor, corporate advisor and high-performance mentor.

My favorite comments from the readers of this articles:


 "I appreciate your aspect on how to work on yourself to better yourself for success. It is amazing that just changing one word can change the aspect of how you approach something. I have been "working" on my weaknesses ~ now I will ATTACK them because they are thieves that try to rob my success. I will not let my weakness take over! Thank you for this insight." Carolina Gutiérrez Sarceño 

"I like the word attack. I am a fierce proponent of strengths. Using - building strengths - is a great tool in ones' personal armamentarium. I always tell clients that you can never convert a weakness into a strength. one must use ones strengths to manage one's weaknesses. To me - strengths are what gives us energy - the energy to build or in your words attack our weaknesses. Weaknesses sap energy - strengths create energgy. So what I love about the "attack model" is that it creates a new paradigm for me (and my clients) that use your strengths to attack your weaknesses to build them to a point which minimizes their effect on your energy - your success - on you. Just my two cents." Susan Carson

"Darren, I enjoy reading your post, as an avid person who likes to work out this analogy helped me recognize a couple of things. One, I fear going the distance when its a weakness mostly impart to the unknown. To attack my writing, spelling and speed reading I plan to make it a goal for lifelong learning. Two, working out my mind muscle is equally important...returning to school as an adult student has made a big change in my world. Three, to attack learning and recognize the value in oneself is truly a gift. Thank you." Geraldine M. Healy

"I so needed this - YES thsi is what I am doing - attacking my weakness, I am not say well that was close, or what an effort, my new motto - do it until it is done - and keep doing it until I can perfect it! " Nose Knows




Wednesday, April 17, 2013

How To Know If You Are In Love With Someone?


When you are together with that special someone,
you pretend to ignore that person.
But when that special someone is not around,
you might look around to find them.
At that moment, you are in love.

Although there is someone else who always makes you laugh,
your eyes and attention might go only to that special someone.
Then, you are in love.

Although that special someone was supposed to have called you long back,
to let you know of their safe arrival,
your phone is quiet.
You are desperately waiting for the call!
At that moment, you are in love.

If you are much more excited for one short e-mail from
that special someone than many other long e-mail’s,
you are in love.

When you find yourself as one who cannot erase all the
messages in your answering machine because of one message
from that special someone,
you are in love.

When you get a couple of free movie tickets,
you would not hesitate to think of that special someone.
Then, you are in love.

You keep telling yourself, “that special someone is just a friend”,
but you realize that you can not avoid
that person’s special attraction.
At that moment, you are in love.

While you are reading this page,
if someone appears in your mind,
then you are in love with that person.

Thursday, April 11, 2013

You Too, Can Succed!
By: Moses P. Reconalla

We are now living in the information age. Every details and information's we need to improve our life, to restore our magnificence are now available in the internet, in the library and in the bookstore. So, there are no reasons and alibis that we cannot help our self to rise above the ashes!

If you are really sincere to succeed, to reach your dreams and become the ideal person you intend to become, this is the right time to think for a change, make a proper action and seize the opportunity to improve your life. Never wait for tomorrow or next day in what you can do today. For tomorrow my friend, is but a dream and today is the salutation to the dawn!

In my readings, I learned and discovered that all great men in the pages of history were a man of action. They have a firm resolution, an iron will to make their dreams a reality. They believed in their powers. They create their own opportunity rather than to find it in other places and they never make excuses from their mistakes and failures instead they learned, laughed from it and make a glorious one!

Kitto, the poor, deaf pauper, who made shoes in the alms house, and who became the greatest Biblical scholars, wrote in his journal, on the threshold of manhood: "I am not myself a believer in impossibilities. I think that all the fine stories about natural ability, etc., are mere rigmarole, and that every man may according to his opportunities and industry, render himself almost anything he wishes to become."

So, if you're seriously enough to succeed in life and intend to becoming the person you really want to become, beginning today, make a firm resolution to work hard on it. Remember the world always stands aside for the determined individual. The world will makes a way, even through seeming impossibilities. That is why Goethe declares that "he who has a firm will mould the world to himself."

Below are just simple guidelines that can guide and help you to succeed in life.

1. Think always on the ideal person you intend to become. Hold it in your mind and work hard on it until you become as what you think!

2. Always believe in your powers. Avoid belittle yourself. Focus always on your strengths rather than on your weaknesses.

3. Avoid socializing to a person with a pessimistic attitude and character. An individual who is only fun of talking, bragging on himself and always finding faults on others are the person can only ruin your visions and dreams in life as well as can corrupt your good character.

4. Nurture your character. Character is your only valuable assets that can help to protect your reputation from the sharp tongue of the backbiter, wicked individual.

5. Read good books. Books are wise, patient mentors and excellent professors that can assess and teach you to become the master among men, yourself!

Finally, remember my friend, you too, can succeed!

Good luck to your journey in life!

Sunday, April 07, 2013



I acknowledge that my time is finite and irreplaceable, and
I state that it is mine to use to my own betterment.

I alone own my choices and actions.

I accept responsibility for my failures, and claim credit for my
successes.

I have worked for and earned both.
By improving my own life, by pursuing my goals, and by acknowledging that I have the right to dream big dreams and aspire to something better than my existence as it is right now, I work to become a better person. By my simple act of doing what matters to me and creating what I value, people who matter to me will benefit from my existence. I am most valuable to those I care about when I live the life I choose.

I choose to offer my abilities and efforts only to those people who matter to me and who appreciate me.

I refuse the blackmail of guilt and pressure from those who do not.

I choose to give value for value in my relationships and dealings with other people, to deal honestly and through free will---and never to attempt to acquire what I want by
force, deception, or manipulation.

I choose to earn my life daily through my own efforts.

I choose to expend my effort in a manner I find meaningful
and important.

I choose to make my life matter to me.


Courage Is Necessary

Rollo May
 


IN HUMAN BEINGS courage is necessary to make being and becoming…possible. An assertion of the self, a commitment, is essential if the self is to have any reality. This is the distinction between human beings and the rest of nature. The acorn becomes an oak by means of automatic growth; no commitment is necessary.…
But a man or woman becomes fully human only by his or her choices and his or her commitment to them. People attain worth and dignity by the multitude of decisions they make from day to day.
These decisions require courage! Courage is essential to our being.