Wednesday, May 29, 2013

Attack Your Weaknesses

by Darren Hardy,  Publisher, Successs Magazine

We hear a lot about finding and strengthening your strengths.
Sure, you should figure out what you are really good at, as it is also usually the thing you like doing as well, and then yes, strengthen it to give you further leverage on that strength.
That’s a good idea. But…

Do not neglect, you must also find
 and strengthen your weaknesses—those attributes or skills that you are not good in, but are critical for you to accomplish your important goals and aspirations.

You must also ATTACK your weaknesses!

I remember a time, many years ago, while working out at a Gold’s Gym in South Beach Miami, I complimented this bodybuilder guy on his calves. I know, weird, but you should have seen them! My calves were something I struggled with. I had all the typical calve exercises in my own routine but they never seemed to grow like my other muscle groups. I just figured they were like your jaw muscles, no matter how much you work them out they aren’t really going to change much—you either have great calve muscles or you don’t.

So I asked this guy what he did to have calves like that. He explained he had lost many body-building competitions in the past because his calves were his weak spot. All the work he had put into developing the rest of his body was eliminated because of this one glaring weakness.

He said, “Then I decided I would just attack them. I wouldn’t work them out like the rest of my body, I would double, triple or quadruple the focus, intensity and emphasis I put on them in my weekly training cycle.”

He proceeded by saying, “And guess what? My weakness has now become one of my greatest strengths. But even if it was just no longer a weakness and only matched the rest of my growth it would have been a great victory. However, in order to accomplish that it required me to multiply my intensity in that one area just to bring it up to even.”

I learned a very valuable lesson that day in the gym. Not just about building my calves but about building my life.

If I have a weakness, one that is essential to the achievement of my goals, I can’t just work on it, I have to ATTACK IT.

If it’s truly a weakness, then it needs MORE attention than other aspects of your development that comes easier or faster.

About the author:

Darren Hardy is the visionary force behind SUCCESS magazine as its Publisher and Founding Editor.
As the central leader in the personal development industry, Darren gets the unique privilege of sitting down with the leading experts on human performance and achievement, as well as many of today’s top CEOs, revolutionary entrepreneurs, superstar athletes, entertainers and Olympic champions, to learn their unique secrets to their extraordinary success.

Darren is also an accomplished entrepreneur, author, keynote speaker, private equity investor, corporate advisor and high-performance mentor.

My favorite comments from the readers of this articles:

 "I appreciate your aspect on how to work on yourself to better yourself for success. It is amazing that just changing one word can change the aspect of how you approach something. I have been "working" on my weaknesses ~ now I will ATTACK them because they are thieves that try to rob my success. I will not let my weakness take over! Thank you for this insight." Carolina Gutiérrez Sarceño 

"I like the word attack. I am a fierce proponent of strengths. Using - building strengths - is a great tool in ones' personal armamentarium. I always tell clients that you can never convert a weakness into a strength. one must use ones strengths to manage one's weaknesses. To me - strengths are what gives us energy - the energy to build or in your words attack our weaknesses. Weaknesses sap energy - strengths create energgy. So what I love about the "attack model" is that it creates a new paradigm for me (and my clients) that use your strengths to attack your weaknesses to build them to a point which minimizes their effect on your energy - your success - on you. Just my two cents." Susan Carson

"Darren, I enjoy reading your post, as an avid person who likes to work out this analogy helped me recognize a couple of things. One, I fear going the distance when its a weakness mostly impart to the unknown. To attack my writing, spelling and speed reading I plan to make it a goal for lifelong learning. Two, working out my mind muscle is equally important...returning to school as an adult student has made a big change in my world. Three, to attack learning and recognize the value in oneself is truly a gift. Thank you." Geraldine M. Healy

"I so needed this - YES thsi is what I am doing - attacking my weakness, I am not say well that was close, or what an effort, my new motto - do it until it is done - and keep doing it until I can perfect it! " Nose Knows

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

How To Know If You Are In Love With Someone?

When you are together with that special someone,
you pretend to ignore that person.
But when that special someone is not around,
you might look around to find them.
At that moment, you are in love.

Although there is someone else who always makes you laugh,
your eyes and attention might go only to that special someone.
Then, you are in love.

Although that special someone was supposed to have called you long back,
to let you know of their safe arrival,
your phone is quiet.
You are desperately waiting for the call!
At that moment, you are in love.

If you are much more excited for one short e-mail from
that special someone than many other long e-mail’s,
you are in love.

When you find yourself as one who cannot erase all the
messages in your answering machine because of one message
from that special someone,
you are in love.

When you get a couple of free movie tickets,
you would not hesitate to think of that special someone.
Then, you are in love.

You keep telling yourself, “that special someone is just a friend”,
but you realize that you can not avoid
that person’s special attraction.
At that moment, you are in love.

While you are reading this page,
if someone appears in your mind,
then you are in love with that person.

Thursday, April 11, 2013

You Too, Can Succed!
By: Moses P. Reconalla

We are now living in the information age. Every details and information's we need to improve our life, to restore our magnificence are now available in the internet, in the library and in the bookstore. So, there are no reasons and alibis that we cannot help our self to rise above the ashes!

If you are really sincere to succeed, to reach your dreams and become the ideal person you intend to become, this is the right time to think for a change, make a proper action and seize the opportunity to improve your life. Never wait for tomorrow or next day in what you can do today. For tomorrow my friend, is but a dream and today is the salutation to the dawn!

In my readings, I learned and discovered that all great men in the pages of history were a man of action. They have a firm resolution, an iron will to make their dreams a reality. They believed in their powers. They create their own opportunity rather than to find it in other places and they never make excuses from their mistakes and failures instead they learned, laughed from it and make a glorious one!

Kitto, the poor, deaf pauper, who made shoes in the alms house, and who became the greatest Biblical scholars, wrote in his journal, on the threshold of manhood: "I am not myself a believer in impossibilities. I think that all the fine stories about natural ability, etc., are mere rigmarole, and that every man may according to his opportunities and industry, render himself almost anything he wishes to become."

So, if you're seriously enough to succeed in life and intend to becoming the person you really want to become, beginning today, make a firm resolution to work hard on it. Remember the world always stands aside for the determined individual. The world will makes a way, even through seeming impossibilities. That is why Goethe declares that "he who has a firm will mould the world to himself."

Below are just simple guidelines that can guide and help you to succeed in life.

1. Think always on the ideal person you intend to become. Hold it in your mind and work hard on it until you become as what you think!

2. Always believe in your powers. Avoid belittle yourself. Focus always on your strengths rather than on your weaknesses.

3. Avoid socializing to a person with a pessimistic attitude and character. An individual who is only fun of talking, bragging on himself and always finding faults on others are the person can only ruin your visions and dreams in life as well as can corrupt your good character.

4. Nurture your character. Character is your only valuable assets that can help to protect your reputation from the sharp tongue of the backbiter, wicked individual.

5. Read good books. Books are wise, patient mentors and excellent professors that can assess and teach you to become the master among men, yourself!

Finally, remember my friend, you too, can succeed!

Good luck to your journey in life!

About the Author

Mr. Moses P. Reconalla is an official member of Davao Association of Guidance Counselors. He has seven years (7) work experience in teaching and in the Guidance & Counseling profession. He has a Master's degree in Guidance & Counseling from Rizal Memorial Colleges and Bachelor’s degree in History and minor in Political Science from Adventist University of the Philippines and a Registered Secondary Social Studies Teacher. 

Sunday, April 07, 2013

I acknowledge that my time is finite and irreplaceable, and
I state that it is mine to use to my own betterment.

I alone own my choices and actions.

I accept responsibility for my failures, and claim credit for my

I have worked for and earned both.
By improving my own life, by pursuing my goals, and by acknowledging that I have the right to dream big dreams and aspire to something better than my existence as it is right now, I work to become a better person. By my simple act of doing what matters to me and creating what I value, people who matter to me will benefit from my existence. I am most valuable to those I care about when I live the life I choose.

I choose to offer my abilities and efforts only to those people who matter to me and who appreciate me.

I refuse the blackmail of guilt and pressure from those who do not.

I choose to give value for value in my relationships and dealings with other people, to deal honestly and through free will---and never to attempt to acquire what I want by
force, deception, or manipulation.

I choose to earn my life daily through my own efforts.

I choose to expend my effort in a manner I find meaningful
and important.

I choose to make my life matter to me.

Courage Is Necessary

Rollo May

IN HUMAN BEINGS courage is necessary to make being and becoming…possible. An assertion of the self, a commitment, is essential if the self is to have any reality. This is the distinction between human beings and the rest of nature. The acorn becomes an oak by means of automatic growth; no commitment is necessary.…
But a man or woman becomes fully human only by his or her choices and his or her commitment to them. People attain worth and dignity by the multitude of decisions they make from day to day.
These decisions require courage! Courage is essential to our being.

Friday, May 25, 2012

Box Of Quotes: "As a Man Thinketh" by James Allen

Box Of Quotes: "As a Man Thinketh" by James Allen: Download here or here . "The aphorism, "As a man thinketh in his heart so is he," not only embraces the whole of a man's being, but is s...

Thursday, February 09, 2012

Make Better Choices Beginning Today

by: Jim Rohn

What we ponder and what we think about sets the course of our life. Any day we wish; we can discipline ourselves to change it all. Any day we wish, we can open the book that will open our mind to new knowledge. Any day we wish, we can start a new activity. Any day we wish, we can start the process of life change. We can do it immediately, or next week, or next month, or next year.

We can also do nothing. We can pretend rather than perform. And if the idea of having to change ourselves makes us uncomfortable, we can remain as we are. We can choose rest over labor, entertainment over education, delusion over truth, and doubt over confidence. The choices are ours to make. But while we curse the effect, we continue to nourish the cause. As Shakespeare uniquely observed, "The fault is not in the stars, but in ourselves." We created our circumstances by our past choices. We have both the ability and the responsibility to make better choices beginning today.

Believe in yourself!

Believe in yourself!

Believe you were made to do any task without calling for aid.

Believe, without growing too scornfully proud,
that you, as the greatest and least are endowed.

A mind to do thinking, two hands and two eyes
are all the equipment God gives to the wise.

Believe in yourself!

You are divinely designed and perfectly made
for the work of mankind.

The truth you must cling to through danger and pain;
the heights others have reached you can also attain.

Believe to the very last hour, for it is true.
That what ever you will, you've been gifted to do.

Believe in yourself and step out unafraid.

By misgivings and doubt be not easily swayed.

You've the right to succeed;
the precision of skill which betokens the great
you can earn if you will!

The wisdom of the ages is yours if you'll read.

But you've got to believe in yourself to succeed.

Winning Words of Champions,
p. 103

Faith In Myself

by: Marjorie Holmes

God gave me faith in myself,
not only on days when I'm going great and winning
and nothing seems impossible
but on days when the whole world looks lousy
and I'm losing and the road ahead seems too hard.
When I wonder if I'm brave enough, smart enough
and I must be crazy to try,
don't let me quit Lord, not ever.

Let me keep the faith in myself.
No matter how many people
discourage me…
doubt me…
laugh at me…
warn me…
think me a fool…
Don't let me listen.

Let me hear another voice telling me,
"You can do it and you will!"
If nobody else in this world gives a darn or believes in me,
let me believe in myself.

I know there'll be times when I will doubt my own abilities,
when I'll be discouraged and on the verge of despair,
don't let me give up,
hang onto me.
Fan the fires so that I'll try even harder.
Give me more faith in myself.

Dear Lord, you are the source of life and power.
You are the source of my abilities and my faith.
Thank you for reinforcements.
I know that you will give me for what I ask…
Faith in myself.

Saturday, October 15, 2011

Consulting Tips from the Million Dollar Consultant: How to Create A Speech from Scratch

By: Dr. Alan Weiss Even if you're not a professional speaker, you will often have to present a speech for a client, a civic group, a trade association, or a social club. By a "speech" I don't mean a report or a facilitation of a meeting. I mean that you're responsible for delivering information to a group of people for at least 30 minutes or more in an engaging and positive manner. Piece of cake. Here are the basic components of a first-rate presentation: First, prepare a catchy opening. It doesn't have to be humorous or clever, but it should capture people's attention. (An audience usually decides in the first two minutes of a talk whether or not to pay close attention to the rest of it.) You might say that you have a very different report from what people expected. Or you might quote some statistics ("We are the seventh largest group of our kind"). You may foreshadow the rest of your talk by citing the fact that there are five important points you want to convey. Whatever you do, the first two minutes will be key, so put yourself in the audience's shoes, and use an opening that would cause you to sit up and listen. Second, in the "body" or middle of the speech, create a clear structure you can work around. For a 30-60 minute talk, I suggest 5-7 points. Support each one with an anecdote, example, or facts. If your overall theme is "How to increase membership," your five points might be: Our membership history The composition of our current membership Competition for members Sources of new members Actions required for attracting new members If we were to take point #3 as an example, supporting anecdotes, examples and facts could include: 3a. There are now 27 sources for similar interests, whereas there were only 7 two years ago. 3b. The impact of cable TV and the Internet 3c. A conversation you had last week with a prospective member who is still undecided If you want to take questions, do it after the "body" but prior to the close. Third, create a closing which summarizes the five main points and then calls for the action you wish from the group. The closing should have a formal ending and a "thank you," and not just drift off into vague questions. Some other rules of thumb: Don't tell a story for the sake of the story. It must be relevant to your point. Don't use humor at someone else's expense, although self-effacing humor almost always is effective. Repeat all questions, to give yourself time to think and to allow everyone in the room to hear them. Don't overdo visual aids-PowerPoint is almost always overkill. Some overheads will usually do the trick if the group isn't too large, but keep the visual professional and in very large type. Don't present things that are already in handouts and which can be read later. Control the room-if someone gives you a hard time, tell them to see you later, but that you owe time to the group and not to one-on-one debates. If you don't know the answer to a question admit it, and ask if anyone else does. Finally, no speech is the turning point of Western Civilization. Prepare carefully, do the best you can, and then go home. You'll find that you did much better than you would have thought.

Consulting Tips from the Million Dollar Consultant: The Ultimate Tip

By: Dr. Alan Weiss
This article concludes five years of the "hot tip of the month," spanning categories from rebutting objections to establishing fees, and from professional development to marketing. I'm bringing it to an end here not because I don't have more to say--a continuing stream of books, tapes, articles, and newsletters will attest to that--but because this forum is becoming unwieldy in its sheer volume. This edition brings us to the 60th entry, one a month, unfailing, for our duration. All the tips will remain on these pages, indexed, for complimentary downloading, ongoing reference, and incentive for new readers. This final "hot tip" is my ultimate tip, not just in the sense of being the final one, but in terms of being, perhaps, the most important. If you want to be successful as a consultant, speaker, trainer, facilitator, coach, or entrepreneur in general, here is the ultimate tip: First be successful as a person. As Popeye said, "I am what I am." Robespierre observed that no man has the ability to step outside the shadow of his own character. You must be comfortable with yourself as a contributing human being if you are to be comfortable and successful as a contributing professional. I've found very, very few good, hard working people who fail dismally as professionals. Similarly, I've found few conniving, insincere, unethical people who succeed spectacularly in their work. Oh, there are temporary anomalies, and we've all had bosses at one time or another who should have been lobotomized for the good of the company, but those are the exceptions. If you're reading this, you're probably not an "organization man" (or woman). You're an entrepreneur trying to do the best you can running your own practice or business. And, funny thing, I've long noticed that the harder I work, the luckier I get. The more that I plan and anticipate, the more the breaks tend to fall in my direction. If you improve your own performance as a person, you'll improve your business. Are you creating happiness, and not just consuming it? Are you a sincere lover, an engaging friend, a loyal colleague? Do you do what you say you will do, and is it predicated on what's right and not just what's expedient? Are you tolerant of honest differences but intolerant of unethical behavior and corrupt actions? Your clients don't have to like you, but they should respect you and admire you (and liking you, of course, doesn't hurt). How does your family regard you? How do your friends react to you? How do your colleagues perceive you? Ultimately, as Billy Joel sang it, we all have to get up with ourselves. Are you a person whom you would respect and admire as a friend? If not, what do you have to change about yourself? If so, then how do you also convey that in your business? The job is merely a means to an end. Your life is that end. How are you living it?